These last few months I have been learning how to receive.
Asking for help is one thing, actually being open to receive it is another. How many of us spend our whole lives practicing giving love to others and yet aren’t able to receive it when it shows up right in front of us? We shrug off kind words, refuse gifts, deny favours and why? Do we feel unworthy of receiving or do we want to keep the scales constantly tipped in our favour?
“Until we can receive with an open heart, we’re never really giving with an open heart. When we attach judgment to receiving help, we knowingly or unknowingly attach judgment to giving help.”
For those of us whose life’s purpose involves service, it can be terrifying to open ourselves up to receiving help from someone else, especially when we don’t have anything to offer in return. So much of our identity is tied up in being a giver, a pillar of strength and stability that people can rely on. We pride ourselves on being able to “do it on our own”, even when we’re at breaking point and can’t do much at all.
As often happens when there is a lesson to be learnt, I recently found myself in a situation where receiving help became one of two options. I could either take graciously from those around me, or risk losing everything I had worked so hard to build. My pride reared up almost immediately, creating an internal war that wreaked havoc within me for weeks. I realised I had associated needing help with weakness, when in fact knowing when to reach out shows great wisdom and strength.
It’s only in the last few days (after an incredible soul mentoring session with this Divine woman) that I have begun to relax into the energy of receiving and allow myself to be held and supported by others without stubbornness getting in the way.
The energy of receiving is deeply Feminine (guys, before you freak out – we ALL have both Masculine and Feminine energies within us that we must balance and integrate if we want to experience greater wholeness).
The Divine feminine is patient, tender and incredibly wise. When something needs attention or is out of balance, she communicates through our thoughts, body and emotions. The healthy Sacred masculine is fearless, courageous and loyal. While Masculine energy is the flag pole – strong, stable, unchanging, Feminine energy is the flag – fluid, transitory, flexible. Where the Masculine is active – doing and achieving, the Feminine is passive – being, nurturing and creating.
Unlike Masculine spirituality which directs energy outwards, Feminine spiritual practice is grounded, earth-based and Goddess-centred. So in order to connect back in with my feminine energy, I’ll be spending more time in nature, more time connecting with my body (starting with my first time at No Lights No Lycra tonight!) and more time tuning into and trusting my own intuition.
My current mantra is,
“I deserve to receive”
Going it alone has romantic connotations, but what could be more beautiful than the Sacred Union of two perfectly balanced halves of the whole Divine dichotomy? If we want to be able to give from a place of abundance, we must also learn how to receive freely without judgement or shame.
Do you have trouble receiving love in all its glorious forms? Let me know in the comments below. I can’t wait to hear about your experiences. Have a beautiful week my little game-changer. Remember, to ask for help is an act of bravery, to receive it is an act of love. You don’t have to carry the weight of the world alone.